// March 21st, 2010 // No Comments » // Books, Visionaries
I just listened to a fantastic call on HorseConscious.com featuring Margrit Coates and Liz Mitten Ryan. Both women are very convincing about what horses have told them and would tell us, too, if we just learned how to listen. Both of them offer retreats and clinics to learn. But until you can attend one, fortunately, they have both written some very helpful books which I’ll get to in a second.
At one point the conversation touched on herd behaviors when equine ecological behaviorist Mary Ann Simonds joined the call, asking them if they could help her research by documenting the roles within healthy herds that appear to be necessary for the ongoing health of the herd. She noted that herds that have had key members removed are now exhibiting unhealthy behaviors in their society, just like humans do in theirs. The call also touched on the fact that horse training has misinterpreted the type of leadership horses need with behavior that uses increasing levels of dominance. Liz refers to lead mare behavior in her herd as coming from a place of “grandmother” energy, which is a very different energy from intimidation energy, one many trainers describe as “You gotta show em who’s boss!” and “You can’t let em win.” The grandmothers I’ve known who rule best are masters at using their hearts and wisdom. Liz Mitten Ryan’s book, The Truth According to Horses is written in the horse’s voice. And the horse doesn’t mince words.
Each horse is unique in personality, just like humans. Horses and humans may share traits in a defined set of personality quadrants (whether Parelli’s horsenalities or Myers-Briggs personalities) but no two will be alike. And Margrit Coates’ book, Horses Talking: How to Share Healing Messages with the Horses in Your Life is the one she recommends first for anyone most interested in understanding their horse’s emotional issues. I’ve just ordered it, and noticed it’s going to require looking in a mirror. Always does…
Just in case you have a skeptic in your life who might need more convincing around animals having emotions, give them scientist Marc Bekoff’s The Emotional Lives of Animals: A Leading Scientist Explores Animal Joy, Sorrow, and Empathy – and Why They Matter.